“Let It Go!” More than a song title, the motto for our age
Why many therapists and brain researchers are finding that “letting go” is vital to our emotional well-being.
Catastrophes, Real or Imagined? How to help our minds tell the difference
How to help our minds prepare for catastrophes, but not get overwhelmed by catastrophic thinking.
When Expectations Fail: Remaining Able to Bend
Expectations can be smashed in two ways: Something happens that is unanticipated, or something we had counted on fails. How do we cope with feeling bereft and vulnerable?
Kidnapped by Depression
Can ancient myths and recent findings from neuroscience help us find a different perspective about depression?
Facing the Tiger: Welcoming Anxiety’s Fierce Wisdom
What if, instead of trying to shun or control our anxiety, we befriended it?
Waiting: a Source of Anxiety or Opportunity for Discovery?
How does waiting make you feel? Stuck? Bored? Angry? Learn how you can change that.
Given Away: The Plight of the Wounded Feminine
What fathers sacrificing daughters in fairy tales tells us about the value of women in our culture
Trauma’s Lingering Effects and the Creative Self
Today we understand that trauma can be “inherited,” passed down through the generations. Speaking what's unspoken can move us out of victimhood.
Daughters Discovering Mothers: the Yearning for Identity
Four poets help us explore the complex dynamic between mothers and daughters. "The material here is for the deepest intimacy and the most powerful estrangement.” –Adrienne Rich
Our Mothers, Ourselves: the Search for the Whole Story
"The primary relationship between women is the relationship of mother and daughter."—Kathie Carlson. Understanding that bond through 3 perspectives: personal, feminist, archetypal.
Fathers: Heroes, Villains, and Our Need for Archetypes
"Behind the personal father whom we know and to whom we relate, lies an innate psychological structure which influences the way we experience him.”—Andrew Samuels
Why We Lie: Are Some Lies More Acceptable Than Others?
Most of us lie and most of us know when we’re lying. But how many of us have examined why we lie?
Where Do You Find Enchantment in Your Life?
Our capacity to be enchanted is crucial to our mental, spiritual, and perhaps even our physical well-being. Let's revisit the meaning of enchantment and make it part of our lives.
You Can’t Fail at Love!
Love need not depend on others. Mindfulness teacher Sharon Salzberg shares advice on how to own your experience of love.
How to Find Hope in Turbulent Times
To sustain hope when the odds are against us, we must look beyond self-determination and self-improvement to what I call the "daily miraculous."
Risks of Speaking Out: Coping with the Inequality of Power
Loss of job, ostracism, impoverishment, humiliation: the cost of speaking truth to power can be intimidating. What determines whether we remain silent or stand up and speak out?
The Things We Carry: How Our Ancestors’ Traumas May Influence Who We Are
New research in behavioral epigenetics reveals how the effects of trauma may be transferred through multiple generations.
My Childhood Trauma: What I Learned, What You Need to Know
Childhood traumas can be paralyzing. I share how I have coped with one that still detonates strong feelings.
Coping with Fear: Face It, Understand It, Overcome It
Fear is hard-wired into us, but unlike other animals we can confront, reflect on and disable our fears.